A blog for those silently suffering in a sexless marriage or relationship.
As we age we find ourselves having less and less sex. This may seem like no big deal and you might believe the only thing you’re missing out on is sex. But did you know there are health side effects that come along with not having frequent sex? It’s true – sex offers us many... Continue Reading →
Has it been over a year since you and your spouse were intimate? Your marriage is probably strained because of it. One of you is refusing the other sex and the other can't stand it anymore. The pain is real. The question is: Does this ongoing indifference in the bedroom indicate a pattern of abuse... Continue Reading →
His birthday was soon and so she challenged herself to gift him thirty days of physical intimacy. The results ended up shocking her. She says, "The benefits were totally amazing!" Most marriages have dry spells. Even the most loved-up couples will, at times, find themselves in intimacy ruts. The pressures of work, family and children... Continue Reading →
One Irish writer's diary of what happened when she committed to 30 days of lovemaking I have an analogy that I like to use to describe my sex life: summed up, me and sex are a little bit like me and the gym. In general, I like going to the gym. But then there are... Continue Reading →
You want to know how dry your relationship has to be before you can call it a sexless one? The answer is: Sex no more than ten times a year. All searches on this topic produce similar outcomes. Dr Phil.com reports: "15 to 20 percent of couples have sex no more than 10 times a... Continue Reading →
For some, outsourcing physical intimacy is a repulsive option, for both spouses in the union. Each partner has their reason for wanting to remain monogamous but what if both tried everything else to rectify the issue and, suddenly, the partner with the lower libido makes the suggestion to outsource? It's not a totally unique story.... Continue Reading →
Does he/she/they use the same old excuse: Too tired? Too busy? Too cold? Too hot? Too achy? Wrong time of the day/week? Neighbours/kids will hear? Unwell? But we did that last week/month/year? Even couples who have frequent, satisfying sex, have dry spells. It only becomes a problem if one partner wants more than the other... Continue Reading →
This sexless marriage is driving me mad! I've thought about it. I don't want a divorce but it seems like this is the only way out of this insanity. It's driving me crazy. YOU are driving me crazy! There, I've said it. If you're reading these words and they make sense, you're not the only... Continue Reading →
Last year, when married only a year, I developed a chronic bladder infection. I’m seeing a specialist and taking antibiotics. I’m getting better, but have frequent flare ups. Our physical relationship has taken a huge toll. The pain and discomfort makes sex infrequent, or restrained, since we’re both wary of my pain. My husband’s been... Continue Reading →
"Is sex all you ever think about?" "I love you but I'm not in love with you." "You make my skin crawl." Listen now to hear how awful our spouses can be when it comes to talking about sex, avoiding sex, and shifting blame. https://open.spotify.com/episode/72Ukt6HkpxHaxyoUfqTRFi?si=fc8155e3c96040c9 -Michael
Living in a Sexless Relationship. 